estro: (Boom de-yada)
( Apr. 8th, 2010 02:13 am)
I've been trying to write a cohesive post. In fact I even tried to write a cohesive poem to post the other day.

Nothing has been gelling.

The things I have wanted to cover:

There is a guy I have twice seen coming out 12th St BART (dressed in sorta 50's newsboy business wear) who seamlessly transitions from stepping off the stairs to gliding away on his freeline skates. I had never seen freeline skating before this, and his absolute nonchalance makes it even more impressive.

ZOMG, everything is green! I mean I live in an area that doesn't actually do bleak winters, but there are always a few weeks each spring when a majority of the plants seem to be in sync with fresh sprouted leaves and blades.

While there is lots of environmental doom still out there, we may be succeeding in undoing some earlier damage: In 1982, the last 22 California condors were placed in a captive breeding program. Today, there are nearly 350 in the world.

I am going to be stuck in downtown Dallas for a week this month I don't know how mobile I will be. Anyone have suggestions for cafe, awesome bookstore, etc?
... once again today's XKCD hits close to home.


..except my hat defeats all!
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... once again today's XKCD hits close to home.


..except my hat defeats all!
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estro: (dAarmstadtarium)
( Apr. 7th, 2008 05:30 pm)
Paris protesters: well done.

So far 401 children removed, given that the Friday estimate for the the ranch's population was about 200 people this is getting sketchier by the minute.

Last Friday night I got to watch my instructor do a static trapeze routine in stiletto heels, a corset, giant false boobs... while blindfolded. And because clearly this was not impressive enough... she sang while doing it (as far as I can tell, all of the other acts of the evening lip-synced)

There are many excellent people in my life. Thank you.
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estro: (dAarmstadtarium)
( Apr. 7th, 2008 05:30 pm)
Paris protesters: well done.

So far 401 children removed, given that the Friday estimate for the the ranch's population was about 200 people this is getting sketchier by the minute.

Last Friday night I got to watch my instructor do a static trapeze routine in stiletto heels, a corset, giant false boobs... while blindfolded. And because clearly this was not impressive enough... she sang while doing it (as far as I can tell, all of the other acts of the evening lip-synced)

There are many excellent people in my life. Thank you.
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Study Finds Men Go for Good Looks
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Men's choices did not reflect their stated preferences, the researchers concluded. Instead, men appeared to base their decisions mostly on the women's physical attractiveness.
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"Women made offers to men who had overall qualities that were on a par with the women's self-rated attractiveness. They didn't greatly overshoot their attractiveness," Todd said, "because part of the goal for women is to choose men who would stay with them"


Given the small sample set and nature of the experiment, I am not sure I would give the results a whole lot of weight.

That being said, applying the above finding to my own poor self-image* really explains a lot. Finding folk who I both find interesting** and attractive, but I think would also find me attractive seems close to impossible.

The first statement above also rings true, as twice I have set aside (or not selected in the first place) for more attractive women who exhibited few of the traits I was told made me special. It also would add hardship to committed long distance relationships: if attractiveness is important, no matter how much calling/writing/etc one engages in, it will always come second to local hotties/mills/activities.

As the population of people I find attractive is already very small, and there are so many shiny, beautiful people out there, how could I possibly compete?

Moving beyond my own whining: I wonder how this applies to non-hetero or gender-queer romances. ((In my few forays, I haven't managed to figure out the lesbian dating scene (Dude, late-night foreign language soap operas make more sense and have less drama. Yes, I exaggerate, but only a little), and I am really not qualified to speculate on any of the gay male scenes.))

When looking for partners, how often do you find that what you end up selecting matches what you want on paper?

*This is not fishing for compliments, it just a statement. I am working on the self image thing, it is slow going.

**interesting includes "being an emotional match" rather than just "we can geek out over the same sets of things"

Study Finds Men Go for Good Looks
...
Men's choices did not reflect their stated preferences, the researchers concluded. Instead, men appeared to base their decisions mostly on the women's physical attractiveness.
...
"Women made offers to men who had overall qualities that were on a par with the women's self-rated attractiveness. They didn't greatly overshoot their attractiveness," Todd said, "because part of the goal for women is to choose men who would stay with them"


Given the small sample set and nature of the experiment, I am not sure I would give the results a whole lot of weight.

That being said, applying the above finding to my own poor self-image* really explains a lot. Finding folk who I both find interesting** and attractive, but I think would also find me attractive seems close to impossible.

The first statement above also rings true, as twice I have set aside (or not selected in the first place) for more attractive women who exhibited few of the traits I was told made me special. It also would add hardship to committed long distance relationships: if attractiveness is important, no matter how much calling/writing/etc one engages in, it will always come second to local hotties/mills/activities.

As the population of people I find attractive is already very small, and there are so many shiny, beautiful people out there, how could I possibly compete?

Moving beyond my own whining: I wonder how this applies to non-hetero or gender-queer romances. ((In my few forays, I haven't managed to figure out the lesbian dating scene (Dude, late-night foreign language soap operas make more sense and have less drama. Yes, I exaggerate, but only a little), and I am really not qualified to speculate on any of the gay male scenes.))

When looking for partners, how often do you find that what you end up selecting matches what you want on paper?

*This is not fishing for compliments, it just a statement. I am working on the self image thing, it is slow going.

**interesting includes "being an emotional match" rather than just "we can geek out over the same sets of things"
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